There are 6 self-defense mechanisms you may not be aware of. I certainly was not. Sometimes, it takes a crisis to reveal how strong you are. I believe some people call it “Trials & Tribulations”. Having been battle-tested. I have decided to share these six self-defense mechanisms with you.
I recently lost my only begotten son. Undoubtedly, this left me heartbroken. However, I knew I had to rise above. I had to find strength. I must cling to a sense of purpose. Finding purpose in a world that is swiftly becoming a huge dictatorship. How do I go about this task?
I must turn my mind’s eye to nature. Nature’s beauty always keeps it real. She says: “turn to your true essence”. I turned to my true essence, and in doing so, I had to gather a suit of armor. I found 6 self-defense mechanisms to help me weather the storm.
In nature, there are some astounding self-defense mechanisms. What are the purposes of defense mechanisms? We employ defense mechanisms to defend ourselves from the anxiety and shame that develops when we are threatened, or when our id is also known as the superego becomes overly demanding.
Defense mechanisms work on a subconscious plane to help the individual avoid unpleasant feelings (such as anxiety) or make positive things feel better.
When it comes to people, however, you may be employing certain protective mechanisms that you aren’t even aware of.
Self-defense mechanisms are common and healthy. Certain neuroses, such as anxiety states, obsessions, phobias, or hysteria, occur when they become out of proportion (i.e., utilized frequently).
Here are a few examples of typical defense mechanisms:
There are numerous defense systems; the most important ones are listed below.
#1: Denial: Sometimes an event or condition is so painful that we tune it out without even realizing it. When other people around you label anything, you can become conscious of your denial.
The denial stage is often the first stage of grief and is the typical first self-defense mechanism for a major loss. During this stage, you might catch yourself saying, thinking out loud, or wondering about things like, “This can’t be happening,” and maintaining a sense of disbelief.
You may wonder how you can even go on with your life if this is truly happening. Yet, there’s also a possibility that you’ll completely avoid the topic. I attempted this for the first few days, as if not formally acknowledging the loss means it isn’t happening.
#2: Repression: Similar to denial, repression involves concealing a sensation or thought deep inside, where it tends to manifest itself in different ways. For example, if you are enraged at your boss and are unable to vent your rage at work, you may become vehement and contentious at home.
Repression is often mistaken for suppression, another type of self-defense mechanism.
Suppression is solely intended, unlike repression, which includes unconsciously repressing and undesired ideas or urges. Suppression is defined as the conscious attempt to forget or avoid uncomfortable or unwanted thoughts.
This is where we bury our pain, and this is truly displaced pain. As the psyche struggles to find a rationale for why the loss took place, we may deny that the loss often isn’t logical/acceptable answers. This lack of self-defense mechanism causes pain, which we experience and sometimes press.
#3: Projection: It’s far easier to disregard our flaws and believe they’re the faults of others. Projection is when you perceive something terrible in other individuals that may or may not exist (such as a negative character characteristic), while demonstrating that same behavior.
It’s natural to start projecting when your worries or anxieties are triggered. If you suspect you’re projecting, the first thing you should do is take a step back from the fight. Your defensiveness will subside over time, allowing you to logically consider the problem.
Then you can: 1) give an objective description of the conflict. 2) Describe your actions and assumptions in sequence, and 3) describe the other person’s actions and assumptions in order. These questions can help you figure out if you’ve been projecting and why.
#4: Rationalization: This one entails rationalizing wrongdoing (due to others, as we would want others to do unto us) and convincing yourself that everything is fine. To work this one into the universe in an acceptable way, you’ll need to construct a complex new system of reasoning, but all kinds of crimes have been justified as legitimate, from embezzlement to genocide.
Rationalization can be relatively benign in many cases. Making up a justification that makes you feel better, even if it’s not entirely true, can be a valuable coping mechanism.
#5: Regression: Regression involves taking a developmental step back to a place where one is physically or emotionally safe. Children frequently regress as they grow older, going through phases where they act like younger children.
Adults may also be subjected to this procedure. For example, if you’ve been fired from a job, you might fall back on the safety net of seeking a similar-paying profession, rather than going for something better.
Individuals who employ regression as a defensive mechanism cope with pressures by acting infantile, immature, or age-inappropriate, that is, they regress to earlier developmental stages, such as when excessive reliance or temper tantrums are normal.
#6: Reaction: Our primordial impulses sometimes take charge, and we prepare to battle. You can swiftly leap into a reactive mood in situations where you don’t have a lot of time before reflecting and calming down, for illustration, if someone cuts you off in traffic, you could hop into a reactionary mood before reflecting and calming down.
When do people start to build defense mechanisms?
Some psychologists note that insecurities in childhood may cause defense mechanisms to arise more strongly and regularly in some people.
Children may not know how to deal with or overcome particular obstacles, leading them to doubt themselves and develop defenses against them. Adults can deal with those obstacles, but old defense systems may resurface from time to time to relieve stress.
Unexpected or difficult events abound in life, and protective systems can help minimize discomfort. They can take the form of passive-aggressive conduct when two friends are unable to deal with conflict, or when an employee transfers her animosity toward her boss or daughter at dinner.
Defense mechanisms can be the result of one-off episodes, both helpful and harmful, or a continuous pattern of behavior that can be explored.
While defense mechanisms are typically considered antagonistic reactions, we all require them to relieve stress and safeguard self-esteem during stressful situations, allowing us to focus on what is most important at the time.
We know that some techniques are more effective than others, to be certain. Using humor to cope with stressful, anxiety-inducing circumstances, for example, can be an adaptive defense mechanism.
Some of the most well-known self-defense mechanisms are now part of ordinary speech. Some could be said to be in “denial” about a situation they are dealing with. When someone refers to former habits, we can refer to this as “regressing” to a previous stage of development.
Remember that defense mechanisms are both beneficial and harmful.
They can be beneficial by reducing stress and offering a healthy outlet for your ego. In other cases, these defense mechanisms may serve as a type of self-deception, preventing you from facing the truth.
“What we have once deeply enjoyed is that we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us”.