Conforming To Societal Behaviors Is Self-Defeating
Overcoming self-defeating actions seems damn near impossible at times. The reason for this is that we as a society, tend to assume that the majority of our opposition comes from around us–a grumbling spouse, a regulating employer, or a road-raging driver.
However, rarely do we recognize the issue: we are typically our very own worst enemies. Right, here are 7 ways to overcome self-defeating behavior.
# 1: Allow yourself a chance to achieve victories.
We already know our faults. Scratch your faults off the list, and you may find some strengths. This focus can serve to the benefit of no longer being stuck on stupidity. Simply being wasteful, as well as reckless.
On the other hand, it’s often good to admit defeat to see the victory in the fight. When you are true to yourself and focus on your strength and make short-comings your sense of style, right there, you have a victory in and of itself.
# 2: Stop trying to please everybody.
You can not make everybody satisfied all of the moment. Rushing around and trying to make others well-contented is a substantial reason for self-defeating behavior.
Whether you’re doing it at a job or in your partnerships, trying to please everyone all the time can cost you your health, wellness, liberty, and life enjoyment.
# 3: Accept your faults.
Stop accepting everyone else’s bullshit. Your faults could be your greatest asset. Your faults make you unique and make you identifiable to those with similar faults.
I don’t give a damn about what anyone else tells you. “You can not do your best if you are not true to yourself, FIRST.”
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# 4: Eliminate poor routines.
Nowadays, most people have negative behaviors related to technology, like fanatically inspecting our email or social media accounts. Take a mindful inventory of how you invest your time. It may shock you to learn just how much you can get done when distractions are eliminated. Yes, we often have more time than we think we do.
Sounds cliche, I know: “If I can do it, you can do it.”
# 5: Stop being so damn scared.
Fear is something that holds many people back from living a greater purpose. You can’t fly if you don’t jump, and also, you can not jump if you’re scared. Not the most remarkable analogy, I know.
Fear doesn’t necessarily need to be a straight sense of trepidation. It could be camouflaged as negligence or evasion. Better yet, we have control over what we fear.
You make your worst fears a reality by putting other people’s bullshit and personas in your head in the first place.
# 6: Stop being a band of ONE.
Everybody needs assistance at some point or the other. Don’t be embarrassed to request help when you
need it, since a severe and self-imposed feeling of self-reliance might be doing you much more
injury rather than good.
Whether it stays in business life or individual life, make friends or at least, good associates who might provide helpful insight now and again, accept help. Be willing to help when required. Even out of goodwill, don’t be a fool about it.
# 7: Drop the sense of guilt.
Allow yourself to enjoy life, even if your past is checkered. Put the bags down. People can transform and grow, so you don’t have to allow experiences and objects in your rearview mirror to hold you back.
A lot of us are on a treadmill as a way of thinking, believing that we have to slave away for another person and only delight during the weekend break, but in many ways, this can be viewed as self-imprisonment.
When you know that you can’t make everyone happy, why do you keep trying to? Rushing around trying to make everyone happy all the time is a massive reason and cause of self-defeating actions.
Whether you’re doing it at work or in your relationships, try to make everyone delighted at all times. Time can cost you your wellness as well as the tranquility of your mind.
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Bonus: Count the ways you are being foolish.
Make a detailed log of the minutes and hours to see how much time you spend being a puppet. I hope that the 7 ways to overcome self-defeating actions were helpful. I may even take some pride in saying: “If you read this far, I didn’t reveal anything new to you.”
I serve as a friendly reminder that “everyone plays the fool sometimes.”